"I have recently started to come out to my family and friends. I am in my forties and am living in Bangkok at the moment but am relocating back to the UK at the end of the summer,to my home in Twickenham. I want to socialise with likeminded women but wish I could meet someone who would partner me and give me the courage I need to enter the lesbian social scene. I know it sound really wet that a person in there forties should be so nervous and I am sure once I got in the door of somewhere I would be fine. If you would like to "buddy me" or just give me some tips on how to push open the door and walk in, I would greatly apreciate it."