That's quite a different attitude you have to adopt for them. Do you have any trouble maintaining both personas?
I think of what I do here as a secret identity. I was raised religiously but had decided it wasn't something I would pursue long before I started my love affair with educating people about sex. When I am home, I am a very different person. I talk about different things. I leave my passions and the things that drive me as a person behind in New York.

So you don't have even the slightest shred of Christian guilt?
I have a lot of faith in what I've chosen to fill my life with, but my family won't see it that way. Talking about dildos, vibrators, S&M and pornography—it goes against everything they stand for.

Will you ever “come out” to your family?
Not if I can get away with it. "Coming out" does not mean there will be acceptance. Just because I divulge the details of my job doesn't mean that I will ever have a conversation with my mother about anal sex. I would rather not burden her with that.

Aside from your family's opinion, do you worry about being judged by others?
I am definitely a little hesitant with regard to whom I tell. I mention where I work and suddenly it's all people want to talk about. Sometimes it's nice just to have a regular conversation. Also, what I do can make others uncomfortable. For example, the line I get from most straight white men is that vibrators are threatening and men don’t like women who use them. That's a situation I'd prefer not to deal with.