Q I’m a 29-year-old hetero female, and for as long as I can remember I’ve had the urge to get double-teamed by two guys. I’m finally in a relationship with a man who’s not threatened by the idea and we’ve even agreed on who the third guy should be. Now we just have to see if this guy is into the idea. Here’s the tricky part: The guy is a college friend of my boyfriend’s. Back in college, the two of them tag-teamed a girl together, which is why my boyfriend thinks the guy will be up for this. The one thing is, my boyfriend tells me that although the guy is pretty well-hung (which is good) he’s also uncut (which I’m really not into at all). The reason this is a problem is because my boyfriend’s one request is that during the double-teaming, he wants to be the one doing the fucking while I give head to the other guy. I really am not into the idea of giving head to an uncut penis. I did it once before and did not enjoy it. But since my boyfriend is being so understanding about helping me fulfill this fantasy, I really don’t feel I have the right to ask him to reconsider the only rule he has about it. So should I just go through with it and hope the second time’s the charm where uncut penises are concerned, or should I call the whole thing off?

A The one major downside to this e-mail-based Q&A sexpert gig is that I don’t ever get a chance to ask key follow-up Qs to help me craft the perfect A. In this case, my key questions would include: (1) What was it you didn’t like about sucking an uncut penis? (You see, although I don’t own and operate one myself, my understanding is that a hardened, well-kempt uncut penis functions pretty much exactly how a cut one does.) (2) What’s the reasoning behind your boyfriend’s “I want to do the fucking” rule? (Is he just choosing his favorite act, or is it more of a territorial, “I’m the only one who gets access to this vagina” type of thing?) And (3) what glorious college did your boyfriend go to and why doesn’t U.S. News & World Report include important things like “frequency of threesomes” in its annual college rankings? The answers to those questions (well, at least the first two) would help me figure out possible ways to help the three of you work this out, but ultimately I don’t really need them to formulate my advice.Although I’m extremely impressed with how considerate you guys are being with each other’s desires and concerns, we can’t lose sight of the goal here: fantasy fulfillment. I can think of nothing worse than finally getting the chance to live out a long-held fantasy, only to have it be a disappointing disaster; that’s why I think that until the two of you can wholeheartedly agree on ground rules that are most likely to please all parties, you should hold off on trying this scenario out. The good news is that it sounds like you and your boyfriend have great communication going here, so I’m sure you’ll figure out a way to get double-teamed in no time.

Q Straight 32-year-old guy here, and I just started dating a really hot 21-year-old woman. The only bad thing I can say about her is that she has really bad breath. We’re talking toxic. It’s like a cruel joke, because when I look at her all I want to do is have sex with her, but kissing her instantly kills the desire because of her breath. The other cruel thing about it is that it’s such a touchy subject that although I’ve mentioned it a couple times (she’ll go brush her teeth, which helps temporarily), I can’t bring myself to come out and say that I think she may have some sort of physical issue—that’s how consistently horrid her breath is. So do I want to be the guy who breaks up with someone because of bad breath, or do I want to be the guy who has to potentially shame a beautiful girl with a bad-breath conversation?

A Man, that is a sucky situation, but I think you need to go the “bad-breath conversation” route, precisely because she may very well have some sort of physical issue going on. I don’t want to put thoughts in your head, but just FYI: Bulimia causes bad breath (all that vomiting wreaks oral-hygiene havoc). The bad breath could also simply be a product of your garden-variety tooth decay, or possibly a sign of some abnormality somewhere within her digestive system. The point is that the long-term benefits of having that awkward conversation will far outweigh the short-term shame. If those weren’t reasons enough, how about this: The bad breath is clearly going to continue to put a crimp in her sex life, so for my piece of mind, sit her down and tell her.

Q Jamie, I always dig your column, and I noticed that you always make a lot of references to politics and politicians, so I figured you were the perfect person to address this question to. My wife and I have been married for nine very happy years, but lately we’ve noticed that the sex life has taken a hit and I think I know why: I’m for Obama and she’s for Hillary. Now for me, that’s not that big of an issue, but I think she takes my Obama backing as a slight against women and is just generally annoyed that for the first time ever, we find ourselves on opposing sides of a political fight. I just want the lever between my legs to get pulled more frequently, so how do we resolve this?

A Well, first of all, I’m curious why you think it has to be a gender thing that’s fueling your wife’s passion for Hillary. Are you only for Obama because you’re a guy? With that kind of attitude, it’s no wonder your wife isn’t working your lever. Perhaps she needs to be treated less reductively. Either way, let’s get our priorities straight here: Politics should never get in the way of good sex. I don’t care if you have to slap a Hillary sticker on your pubes, you need to figure out a way to let your wife know that you appreciate her passion in all realms of life and that having sex with her is more important to you than having your candidate of choice win an election. In other words: Don’t turn your partnership into some hardheaded battle of wills. I know you’re being a bit lighthearted about this question, and I don’t mean to come down hard on you, but if left to fester, it’s seemingly petty stuff like this that can eat away at an otherwise loving relationship. Besides, let’s face it, either one of them will be a far better President than whatever warmongering, trickle-down, choice-depriving nincompoop the other side has to offer.

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