Last-minute details

A day or two before the bris, you’ll have some final preparations. Stock up on supplies as suggested by your chosen mohel. These might include items for the ceremony, like kosher wine, a kiddush cup, challah, and yarmulkes for male family members and guests. You’ll also want a pillow for the baby to rest on during the procedure. Confirm that there will be a large, sturdy table available for the mohel and an empty chair for the prophet Elijah.

If you haven’t chosen a Hebrew name for your son, now’s the time. (Be warned that his parents will likely need to know their own Hebrew names for the ceremony; check with your mohel.) Ditto for appointing the relatives or close family friends who will have honorary roles at the event—for example, holding the baby or carrying him in. The mohel may also suggest that you bring supplies such as a few burp cloths, extra diapers and antibiotic ointment.

And while your mother-in-law may lobby to see her new little prince dressed in fancy duds, easy access is best, so opt for a kimono or open-bottom gown. Remember that his mom, too, will have to find something decent to wear (a maternity outfit should do the trick). The most important thing is to just keep it together: Having to host a party eight days after delivery is, in some ways, a nightmare. At the same time, it’s a precious opportunity to let your family welcome your son into his world—and his tribe.

Also see: Bris cheat sheet for jittery goys »