Slutever’s sex and dating tips

Karley Sciortino: Sex and dating blogger Slutever Photograph: Sandy Kim

6. V-cards are NBD.
“Virginity is stupid. People stress out way too much about who to fuck for their first time, or if they should wait until they are in love to do it. My advice is to just get it over with. This way you can move on to the actual fun stuff like falling in love and having sex that lasts longer than 30 seconds. A sex therapist once told me, ‘If your body is craving sex, that means that you’re ready.’ So if you’re horny, don’t overthink it. Just go for it.”

7. Pubes are cool.
“Pubes are way in right now. Hairless vaginas are for porn stars, babies and people with fake tans. For inspiration, see early ’90s-style Madonna in her coffee-table book, Sex.”

8. Ladies, own your orgasms.
“Did you know that only 30 percent of women have an orgasm during intercourse? That’s not a high percentage. (Thanks a lot, evolution!) If you can’t come during sex, don’t worry. Your vagina is not broken. Most guys still don’t get this. They think they can just shove their dick in a bunch of times and we will have an orgasm, but actually it just feels like we’re inserting a tampon on repeat forever. Don’t be afraid to masturbate in front of a guy, or touch your clit during sex. Most guys can’t get you there by themselves, so it’s up to you to help them out.”

9. Kink: Just do it.
“Generally speaking, it’s a good idea to be curious and try new things. This goes for sexual stuff as well. If you’re dating someone and you find out they have a weird fetish, don’t freak out. This is a good thing. Think of it as an opportunity to not be so boring for a second. Be spontaneous! Unless your lover’s fetish involves shit or flowing blood, I say suck it up and try it.”

10. Be fabulous.
“Finally, the real secret to dating—and life—is to be the most amazing version of you possible. It sounds corny, but it’s true! Don’t be one of those people who sit around smoking weed, doing nothing and hating the world all day because you don’t have someone who loves you. Be the sort of person who takes vitamins, reads books, goes jogging and gives mind-blowing head. All you have to do is be fabulous, and everyone will want to fuck you.”