Great dates to enliven any relationship

  • Photograph: John Bentham Photography

    One Leg Up

    One Leg Up

  • Photograph: Courtesy Chemistry NYC


  • Oralfix


  • Photograph: Lizz Kuehl


    Mister Saturday Night

  • Photograph: Jena Cumbo


    Soul Clap

Photograph: John Bentham Photography

One Leg Up

One Leg Up

Let your guard down

Sometimes a couple reaches a point in their relationship when they'd like to go out and stare at naked people. When that special moment arrives, choose from several erotic parties throughout the city, which offer various programs depending on how risqu you're both feeling. The R-rated Take-Out soirees from One Leg Up ( go down in clubs and lounges, while the parties hosted by Chemistry ( are held in private lofts and hotel spaces and are much more free-spirited (public sex and group sex have free rein). The guests at all events are screened in advance to ensure sophisticated fun for all involved. Schedules vary; visit and for details.

You might not be getting it on yet, but after a walk through the Museum of Sex, that could change. Exhibits such as "Obscene Diary" and "The Sex Lives of Animals" will get you thinking dirty. Afterward, cement the mood with a tipple at MoSex's aphrodisiac bar, Oralfix, which specializes in stiff cocktails like the Queen's Knickers (Bulldog gin, Pimm's, Earl Grey tea and honey; $12). Museum of Sex, 233 Fifth Ave at 27th St (212-689-6337, $17.50, seniors and students $15.25.

If you're looking to spice things up without including other people, try learning some new skills to surprise your partner. All three Babeland locations offer cheap or free classes on everything from oral-sex tips to how to bone at your in-laws' during the holidays. The workshops at Williamsburg's Shag are more in-depth and include tutorials on couples massage, shibari rope bondage and female ejaculation. Babeland, locations throughout the city; visit * Shag, 108 Roebling St at North 6th St, Williamsburg, Brooklyn (347-721-3302,* Class schedule and price varies; visit websites for details.

Get physical

Once you've passed the preliminaries, it's time to undulate seductively in a crowd of near strangers. Parties by Mister Saturday Night are known for a top-notch blend of disco and house, while New York Night Train's Soul Clap and Dance-Off features soul, funk and retro beats. Anyone who manages to score the $100 prize for best dancer will probably do some extra scoring off the floor. Schedules vary; visit and for details.

Team up to whack a few balls out of the park at the batting cages in the Chelsea Piers Field House: Different machines are available depending on your skill level—fast, medium and slow-pitch softballs and baseballs, plus an MLB-quality ProBatter simulator. (We suggest a series of slow pitches, followed by extended use of the simulator.) Chelsea Piers Field House, Pier 62, 23rd St at the Hudson River (212-336-6500, Ten pitches $2.75, ProBatter 16 pitches $5.50.

NEXT: Daytime wooing

  1. 1
  2. 2