My lecture in one minute: "Safer Sexting"

Lux Alptraum, editor of sex blog Fleshbot (, caps off sex shop Babeland's Back to School series of lectures with an explanation of how to responsibly send sexts.

"It's not bad or gross to want to take a naked picture and share that with your partner, or to send a dirty text message. But be aware that you are taking some risks, just like when you have physical sex.

It comes down to being able to trust the person you're with [and] preparing for the fact that you might not be able to trust them in the future. Don't name yourself or a person in case it gets out. If it's a text message, then it's a little harder [to remain anonymous] because it's probably connected to your cell phone.

The best sext is the [one] that feels right to you. People get this idea that they have to talk like they're in a porn movie, or say the perfect thing that's super hot. Being genuine and saying things that you would say to your partner for real—that's what's sexy. And for all sexual encounters, if you're making a critical decision, it's best to be sober."

Babeland, 43 Mercer St between Broome and Grand Sts (212-966-2120, Thu 29 at 7pm; free.

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