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What makes you a true New Yorker?

We asked notable city dwellers to share their recommendations and advice.

1/10

Ben Smith, editor-in-chief of BuzzFeed

(buzzfeed.com)
“I grew up here, and aside from a few years reporting from foreign lands—Indianapolis, Latvia—after college, I haven’t really left. But I’ve always felt that being from here made me a bit of an anomaly, less of a New Yorker than the people from elsewhere who really drive the city. I didn’t really feel like I was fully part of the city until I started raising my kids in Ditmas Park, Brooklyn, which is a small town where everyone knows your name.”

2/10

Joe Zee, creative director of Elle and host of All on the Line with Joe Zee

“The cliché of ‘The City That Never Sleeps’ is the best description of a city where you can get anything you want, anytime you want. My first real feeling of being a true New Yorker was when I walked around on New Year’s Day the first year I arrived and realized everything was open.”

“A true New Yorker will always have an early Sunday morning breakfast—whether it’s coming home super late from a party or waking up early to enjoy the quiet of the city—in the greasiest diner-dive possible, with the Sunday papers. I love going to La Bonbonniere(28 Eighth Ave between 12th and Jane Sts; 212-741-9266) in the West Village with my Sunday Times and New York Post on early Sunday mornings. There’s nothing more special than [getting] eggs and bacon from there and leaving smelling like the food.”

Photograph: Elk Studios
3/10

Soraya Darabi, digital brand strategist and cofounder of Foodspotting

(foodspotting.com)
“A trip to the Apollo Theater (253 W 125th St between Adam Clayton Powell Jr. [Seventh Ave] and Frederick Douglass Blvd [Eighth Ave]; 212-531-5305, apollotheater.org) is a must for any true-blue New Yorker. A friend and I went the night Michael Jackson died, and danced with about a thousand locals to Thriller in its entirety.”

“I also suggest spending a summer afternoon walking from Jackson Heights, Queens to Red Hook, Brooklyn. It’s not so hard and, in fact, my sister runs a walking tour called GoldNight (facebook.com/goldnightwalks), that she leads each summer. You begin by eating authentic samosa chaat in Jackson Heights, shop for saris and end up near Sahadi’s (187 Atlantic Ave between Clinton and Court Sts, Brooklyn Heights, Brooklyn; 718-624-4550, sahadis.com) for quality hummus or at the Red Hook Ball Fields (155 Bay St between Clinton and Henry Sts, Red Hook, Brooklyn; 718-722-3211, nycgovparks.org) if your feet are up for it. Finish the day with a cup of fresh squeezed watermelon juice, watch kids play soccer or jump in the Red Hook pool. New York extends far past Manhattan, and I encourage friends to visit the outer boroughs as much as possible.”

“Honestly, I’ve felt like a New Yorker my whole life. My parents moved to the city in the ’60s, and I grew up listening to stories about Studio 54 and Palladium. According to my father, this city hasn’t been any fun in more than three decades. I spent junior high and school in Minnesota, and I went to college in Washington, D.C. I moved back to New York six years ago.”

“As an adult, I solidified my love for New York with short road trips to Arthur Avenue in the Bronx for quality cannoli; to the Brooklyn Botanic Gardens (900 Washington Ave at Crown St, Crown Heights, Brooklyn; 718-623-7200, bbg.org) during its cherry blossom homage in April; to Central Park for the annual outdoor New York Philharmonic (nyphil.org) performance; to the Met Opera House (Lincoln Center Plaza at 65th St; 212-362-6000, metoperafamily.org) for the opening night of the American Ballet Theatre (abt.org); to the High Line the week it opened; and to the Columbia University Library steps any day, week or month. Those are some of my fondest, true-blue New York memories of recent years.”

“To be a New Yorker, you don’t need to be born and raised in the city; but you do have to feel like there’s no other place on earth you’d rather live.”

4/10

Kin Ying Lee, head designer for Madewell

(madewell.com)
“Visit Brooklyn. You can’t call yourself a New Yorker if you have only seen Manhattan and not explored the other boroughs. This neighborhood is especially important to me because I live there with my family. It is where we landed after moving here from Ohio. I love Williamsburg for its industrial vibe. It is full of creative people and has become such a great place to bring up kids. There are amazing restaurants and cool boutiques. You get a bit more space, but it is still a hop away from the city.”

“[You can] get lost while discovering new places in Chinatown, but find your way to Amazing 66 (66 Mott St between Bayard and Canal Sts; 212-334-0099), Winnie’s (104 Bayard St between Baxter and Mulberry Sts; 212-732-2384) and Joe’s Shanghai (9 Pell St between Bowery and Doyers St; 212-233-8888, joeshanghairestaurants.com). Amazing 66 has a really incredible dish that’s a whole chicken stuffed with fried sticky rice. Winnie’s is a local, no-frills, low-tech karaoke spot (they still use laserdiscs). Plus the drinks are cheap, and you only have to pay $1 per song. Joe’s Shanghai has the best soup dumplings!”

“I felt like a true New Yorker when I found local spots that made me feel at home. Continuing to go to them makes me feel like part of the city and community, especially seeing the same faces all the time. Sharing my favorite places with my friends and family also makes me feel like I am a true New Yorker. Some of my favorite restaurants include Five Leaves (18 Bedford Ave at Lorimer St, Greenpoint, Brooklyn; 718-383-5345, fiveleavesny.com) for the food and atmosphere; Marlow & Sons (81 Broadway between Berry St and Wythe Ave, Williamsburg, Brooklyn; 718-384-1441, marlowandsons.com) for great breakfast, pastries and dinner; and Rye (247 South 1st St between Havemeyer and Roebling Sts, Williamsburg, Brooklyn; 718-218-8047, ryerestaurant.com) has an old-fashioned vibe with delicious, rich food. My top stores are Bird (316 Fifth Ave between 2nd and 3rd Sts, Park Slope, Brooklyn; 718-768-4940 • 220 Smith St at Butler St, Cobble Hill, Brooklyn; 718-797-3774, shopbird.com), an inspiring boutique with a beautiful selection of cool brands; Darr (369 Atlantic Ave between Bond and Hoyt Sts, Boerum Hill, Brooklyn; 718-797-9733, shopdarr.com), which has amazing antique finds; and Hollander & Lexer (358 Atlantic Ave between Bond and Hoyt Sts, Boerum Hill, Brooklyn; 718-797-9190 • 103 Metropolitan Ave at Wythe Ave, Williamsburg, Brooklyn; 718-797-9117, hollanderandlexer.net) for their aesthetic in men’s clothes. I also shop at 10 Ft. Single by Stella Dallas (285 North 6th St between Havemeyer St and Meeker Ave, Williamsburg, Brooklyn; 718-486-9482), a cool antique store owned by Japanese people that stocks American stuff and the latest vintage trends.”

5/10

Jake Dobkin, publisher and cofounder of Gothamist

(gothamist.com)
“Go to 5Pointz (45-46 Davis St at Jackson Ave, Long Island City, Queens; 317-219-2685, 5ptz.com) to see the graffiti. It’s still the best place to see traditional New York graffiti in the five boroughs. Or eat a knish at Yonah Schimmel Knish Bakery (137 E Houston St between Eldridge and Forsyth Sts; 212-477-1002, knishery.com). It’s just about the last remaining restaurant from the old Lower East Side.”

“[The day I felt like a New Yorker was…] probably the day I was born here 35 years ago. Although I think anyone who gets mugged on the subway should get an honorary citizenship. Being a native New Yorker means always having the trump card in any argument about gentrification. Like when all your friends are complaining about how their favorite restaurant became a Starbucks, you can tell them about how before it was a restaurant, it was a bodega that sold ninja stars under the counter—but really it was a front for the neighborhood cocaine dealers. That tends to shut them up real fast. Of course, that’s why most native New Yorkers have very few friends.”

Photograph: Mindy Tucker
6/10

Julie Klausner (julieklausner.com), comedian and host of the podcast How Was Your Week?

“It’s sort of impossible to be bored when you [walk around New York City], since neighborhoods change all the time—restaurants close, people wear crazy shit, there’s always something to see, even when the weather is lousy. Not every city has that built into its design.”

“See a movie in the middle of the day by yourself, because you can. I remember when Pecker came out [in 1998], and it was the first new John Waters film in a while. TheAngelika Film Center (18 W Houston St at Mercer St; 212-995-2000,angelikafilmcenter.com) was packed on its first night, which was really cool.”

“There’s Jew stuff to do, which is nice. Russ & Daughters (179 E Houston St between Allen and Orchard Sts; 212-475-4880, russanddaughters.com) and Katz’s Delicatessen(205 E Houston St at Ludlow St; 212-254-2246, katzsdelicatessen.com) are pretty unchanged downtown institutions that I’m proud of. I’m excited about the Whitney Biennial and the Cindy Sherman exhibit at MoMA (11 W 53rd St between Fifth and Sixth Aves; 212-708-9400, moma.org). I like going to Film Forum (209 W Houston St between Sixth Ave and Varick St; 212-727-8110, filmforum.org) and the Walter Reade Theater (Lincoln Center, 165 W 65th St between Broadway and Amsterdam Ave; 212-875-5600, lincolncenter.org). The UCB Theatre (307 W 26th St between Eighth and Ninth Aves; 212-366-9176, ucbtheatre.com) is great; the new one in the East Village(153 E 3rd St between Aves A and B; 212-366-9231, east.ucbtheatre.com) is worth visiting. I recommend eating as much pizza as you possibly can when you’re here. I’d recommend that to anyone.”

“I’m what Grammy Hall [from Annie Hall] calls a real New York Jew. My mom is from Brooklyn, my dad is from the Bronx, I went to NYU and I’ve lived in the city ever since. I don’t think being a New Yorker is a something as simple as having lived her for X amount of years, figuring out which trains to take without looking at a map, or knowing when to avoid Times Square (which is all the time, unless you have theater tickets and a Klonopin prescription for the purpose of bracing yourself prior). I really do think it’s a disposition you gain with experience. You’re more guarded and cynical, but you’re also intelligent and curious. You’ve seen and heard everything so you really are genuinely ravenous for something new and fascinating—something truly great that breaks through all of the jabber. New Yorkers have friends with different kinds of jobs they’re passionate about, and they have absolutely no time for bullshit, which includes anything boring or time-sucking. When I’m away from New Yorkers or former New Yorkers for too long, I lose my mind.”

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Photograph: Liza Chrust
7/10

Amanda Libby, founder of Where Can I Find the Perfect

(wherecanifindtheperfect.com)
“Anyone who lives in New York must go to the High Line (from Washington St at Gansevoort St to Tenth Ave at 30th St; thehighline.org) for a picnic. Head to Chelsea Market (75 Ninth Ave at 16th St; chelseamarket.com) first, which is just a few blocks away. You can pick up everything you need, including baskets at Chelsea Market Baskets, lobster rolls at the Lobster Place, brownie bites at Fat Witch and even some bubbly at the Chelsea Wine Vault.”
 
“Anyone who lives in NYC must know where to get a $10 manicure after 10pm. I go to Hair Party 24 Hours (76 Madison Ave at 28th St; 212-213-0056, hair24hours.com) if I need a last mani-pedi, wax, or even bang trim. The salon is always open, and the chic digs provide a nice escape any time of day.”
 
“You must eat from a food cart to be a real New Yorker, but there’s no need to settle for the typical hot dogs and pretzels. BLT’s GO Burger truck (goburger.com) offers gourmet kobe dogs for $6, topped with spicy mustard. The truck is always on the move, but you can follow it on Twitter for updated locations (@GOBurger).”

8/10

Justin Vivian Bond, singer, performance artist and author

(justinbond.com)
“The first thing you have to think about is transportation. If you’re taking the subway, buy a MetroCard and hold onto it so you can use it for refills. If you’re taking a taxi, the first thing you do when you get in the cab is turn off the TV. If you’re walking and you’re hungry, don’t pay more than a dollar for a slice of pizza.”

“[I really felt like I was a New Yorker…]  probably back when I was fresh out of school and living on the Upper West Side. Back then, I bought my weed from a guy named Ace who dealt [it] on 87th Street. One day he disappeared. The other guys on the street said he’d been arrested. Then, one day he was back. I realized I’d been around long enough for my dealer to be arrested, spend time in the pokey and get out. I was still there, and he was once again delivering the goods. That’s when I knew I was a real New Yorker.”

Photograph: Virginia Sherwood
9/10

Chris Hayes, host of Up with Chris Hayes and editor-at-large of The Nation

“Drunkenly end a night at Gray’s Papaya (2090 Broadway at 72nd St; 212-799-0243) or Papaya King (179 E 86th St at Third Ave; 212-369-0648, papayaking.com). Buy two very cheap, very unhealthy and very delicious hot dogs, and devour them. When you start to leave, you may find yourself back in line for one (or two!) more. I’ve never done this, of course, as you can tell from the detailed nature of my response.”

“A true New Yorker takes great, great pride in never being hit with the ‘Please swipe again at this turnstile’ message [in the subway], and can’t but feel just a little bit of bile rising in his or her throat when stuck behind someone who does get such a message.”
 
“I was born at Albert Einstein [College of Medicine] hospital in the Bronx, grew up in the borough, went to high school in Manhattan and my parents still live in the Bronx, so it’s fair to say I’ve felt like a New Yorker for about as long as I’ve been sentient. That said, I do have early childhood memories of going to watch the Fourth of July Fireworks down at South Street Seaport, sitting on my father’s shoulders and being simply awestruck by the crowds of people: So. Many. Humans. You still get those moments from time to time, no matter how long you’ve lived here.”

10/10

Scott Stringer, Manhattan borough president

(mbpo.org)
“For me, there wasn’t a specific moment when I realized a New Yorker, because I was born this way; I’m a native. True New Yorkers have a certain moxie that can be recognized from a mile away. You know you’re a real New Yorker when you prefer the sound of honking horns to crickets in the nighttime hours.”

“I love New York’s old diners. My go-to is Utopia (267 Amsterdam Ave between 72nd and 73rd Sts; 212-873-6233). I love walking the lower loop of Central Park with my wife, Elyse. The Temple of Dendur in the Met’s Egyptian wing (1000 Fifth Ave at 82nd St; 212-535-7710, metmuseum.org) is stunning and a must-see.”

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Comments

12 comments
Mara J
Mara J

So I guess New York's demographic consist of only whites and Asians.

nicnere
nicnere

Right. Of course, you're not going to publish that comment about fact checking the racial demographics of NYC. Great to be white and rich in NYC.

occupy TONY
occupy TONY

So, I suppose TONY now censors comments that do not agree with this offensive article. You'll just leave the one from the one profiled here to make this article palatable. That's ok, I have the screenshot of the unpublished comment. You're not the only one who has access to the internet and a blog.Welcome to Syria.

Soraya Darabi
Soraya Darabi

Hey guys, I'd like to jump in here to quickly thank the TIME OUT crew - who did an amazing job working with those who were interviewed. Lauren and their copy editing staff were professional throughout the wrangling process. Thank you to them for reaching out in the first place, for coordinating several busy schedules, and especially for taking the time to fact check. @Midwester Transplant Poster - Not that it matters (much) but I was born in Harlem and lived there until age 6, across from The Cotton Club. My father kept his NYC apartment until I was 14. He drove an NYC taxi cab - 1A57 - for over 25 years. I spent every Summer in the city until the age of 21, when I moved back permanently the day after college ended. AND, the best part of Minnesota is that locals are welcoming. I promise if you visited a friend there for a week and wanted to call yourself a Minnesotan, they'd let you.

OC
OC

I think this is an interesting list. However, as a native New Yorker, I am offended that there is not even one person of African descent on this list. This is not the first time I have experienced feeling excluded from Time Out. The selections you make are repeatedly geared towards white, middle and upper middle class New Yorkers(many of which are not "native New Yorkers". I suggest that Time Out reconsiders the demographic of New York City. It's a majority minority city. However, when people come to your website, they would think it is a predominately white city. It's not and it would be greatly appreciated if you represented and also catered to the tastes of NY's diverse population.

JOR
JOR

@ Peter even if Lauren gets fired, she'll just land another "journalistic writing " gig at either The Awl, Village Voice, or GothamShit -- blogs/publications about NYC written by non-new yorkers. Good to be white and beautiful in the insular world of NYC media. Kin Ying Lee said “Visit Brooklyn. You can’t call yourself a New Yorker if you have only seen Manhattan and not explored the other boroughs. This neighborhood is especially important to me because I live there with my family. Uhmm. have you explored other boroughs aside from Brooklyn? and "It is where we landed after moving here from Ohio." O.hi.o -- that.is. all How are the people profiled here notable city dwellers and true New Yorkers? You need to give yourself a timeout, time out New York.

not a mid westerner transplant
not a mid westerner transplant

"I spent junior high and school in Minnesota, and I went to college in Washington, D.C. I moved back to New York six years ago." If I were to say this same thing about having attended college somewhere else and then moving back to Minnesota, does not make me a Minnesotan. Definitely written by a New York transplant who thinks NYC is comprised of only rich white trustafarian yunnies transplants, and most likely Lauren is one.

Peter
Peter

Whoever wrote the article should be fired immediately

Peter
Peter

This article is a Joke... Nothing New York is mentioned here... Nothing neighborhood mention or how it was when I grew up (26) or when my parents grew up... This article is from a trendy dirty hipster wrote who makes it clear the know absolutely nothing ab real newyork....this is PATHETIC