The Sex issue 2012: A guide to dating and sex in NYC

It's an urban jungle out there, especially when it comes to dating and sex. Here's our annual investigation of the state of mating in NYC.



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New York's dating and sex scene is endlessly diverse. If you follow your curiosity down the rabbit hole, there's no telling what you'll find. New Yorkers watch air sex on stage and take blow-job lessons; we go to sex parties and sugar-daddy parties. And, of course, we have a museum dedicated to the deed. Once a year TONY examines the city's seductive, stimulating and scandalous side—and this is what we found.

Dating and sex in the city

100 pickup spots

Whether you want to find a date, a one-night stand or something deeper, here are 100 tried-and-tested locations recommended by real New Yorkers.

Street survey: What makes you horny?

We asked members of the public what makes them randy, baby, yeah.

Street harassment

Find out how two organizations are combating catcalling and other forms of street harassment in New York.

Sex poll

Take our survey! For two weeks we're anonymously polling New Yorkers about what really happens between the sheets.

Sexy songs, steamy venues and hot musicians

New York is for lovers—cultured lovers, to be precise. Check out our sexy-song countdown, pick your date venue and get ready for your classiest hookup yet.

Dating and sex resources

Bloggers' favorite sex blogs

We asked some of our favorite local sex bloggers to share which sex blogs they click on and podcasts they download.

Sex toys and accessories

Sex shop owners and staff sift through their stock to recommend the best sex toys at their NYC stores.

Locally made lingerie

We chat to Brooklyn designers Clare Herron of Clare Bare and Anais Bouchard of Nais, who make eco-friendly underthings.

Best sex shops in New York City

Spice things up with the help of the city's top erotica purveyors.

Dating and sex in culture

A brief history of the vagina in art

Forget Eve Ensler and Naomi Wolf: When it comes to the vagina as a subject, art was there first.

50 best sex songs ever

Let our playlist take you by the hand, whisper sweet nothings in your ear and lead you all the way to the bedroom.

10 books sexier than Fifty Shades of Grey

These erotic books are hotter and much better written than the E.L. James S&M trilogy.

The 50 most controversial movies ever

It's time to get delightfully offended with these all-time shockers.

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