Harvey says bye to stand-up, hello to a new talk show.
By Novid Parsi|
Emotional is the word Steve Harvey uses, five times, to describe his farewell comedy tour, which stops in Chicago on July 28. “Stand-up is the thing that’s dearest to my heart,” he says. What prompted one of the Original Kings of Comedy to give it up is a talk show for NBC that will be shot in Chicago and will premiere September 4. Harvey spoke by phone after recording his weekday-morning radio show, after taping three episodes of Family Feud and before taping three more. “I’m busy, brother,” the 55-year-old says resignedly about his day. “I ain’t gonna lie to you.”
Have you and your family found a house here? My wife is in Chicago right now, decorating.
Can you tell me where? Uh-uh. [Laughs] I like the way you tried it, though! Buddy, I’d have people outside my door soon as I get there with red velvet cakes. I know a lotta people in Chicago. They’ll discover it sooner or later. Let’s just say it’s in a high-rise, downtown Chicago. A penthouse somewhere.
The Facebook page inviting potential guests to your show asks questions like, “Worried about the guy your daughter’s dating? Do you want Steve to check him out for you?” So you’ll be a kind of Dr. Phil, giving out advice? I’m not a doctor. I just have a tremendous amount of common sense. There’s a lot more to me than just funny. I’ve had multiple marriages, I have a blended family, I have been a great father, I have messed up in fatherhood. I’m a great husband now, but I’ve been a bad one in the past. I have daughters that range from 29 down to 15. I’ve got sons that go from 14 to 21. I’ve been married, been homeless, divorced, good credit, bad credit.
When were you homeless? Between 30 and 33 years old. I was with my first wife. We were on the ropes and I left Cleveland and I didn’t have anywhere to go, so I was living in a [Ford] Tempo for three years. Every now and then I’d earn some money and could get a hotel room, like a Motel 6, but most of the money I sent back to my ex-wife and kids, so that caused me to live in a lotta parking lots and stay at a lotta rest areas.
When did you mess up in fatherhood? When I was homeless, I couldn’t provide much at all for my twin daughters. I wasn’t making a lotta money as a stand-up. And then I wasn’t there for them, which is even bigger than the finances. That burns in me today to be the father that I am now.
With your books and now the talk show, you’ve made a shift from comedian to motivational speaker. What prompted that? I never saw myself not being a stand-up. That was my plan. But the plan that the Creator had for me has been a little bit different. And so I find myself on August second doing my last show—which, oh, by the way, is gonna be on pay-per-view and DirecTV, $19.95. Please put that in the article. [Laughs]
So you’ve also become more religious. How did that happen? I was sick of me. I didn’t have a great relationship with God. I was making all the decisions myself. And in doing that, man, I was messing up. I was marrying who I wanted to marry, without confiding in him. I was like that song “The Tears of a Clown.” Everybody see me laughing on the outside, but in my hotel room I was miserable.
In your book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, why do you place the responsibility on women to understand men? Why not ask men to act like a man, think like a lady? A lotta women have asked me, “Steve, why is the onus of the relationship on the woman?” Well, it don’t have to be. But if you’re trying to understand how your man thinks, let me let you in on a little something: Here’s what we think about love, relationship, commitment. And it was so factual and true, I didn’t even get flak from men.
But some women have given you flak. One wrote on an NBC website that you have “oversimplified views of black women and rigid, heteronormative and frankly outdated ideas about love and partnership.” I didn’t write a Bible. I just wrote a book. You can call it outdated, but there are some things in a relationship that’s gonna last throughout the end of time: Boy meets girl, they say they fall in love, and then here’s the rest of it. So I’m really cool with the criticism. But don’t buy the book, lady. It’s okay.
Your own parents were married for 64 years. What did you learn from their example? My father was a coal miner in West Virginia and a construction worker in Cleveland, Ohio. The three months of winter he was out of work, and my father booked numbers. It was illegal, but it fed us. My paper route was I went to people’s houses to not only deliver the papers but I would pick up all of the numbers, and if somebody hit, he made 10 percent. And that’s how we ate. My mother was a Sunday school teacher for 40 years, so my mother always raised me with faith. My father’s conversation was: Work hard, do what you say you gonna do, and don’t be afraid of another human being.