Four once-Undateable New Yorkers get real about love in the city

Status: Single

Q: How does your current status make you feel?
A: A lot of things. But I'm feeling empowered in a way.

Q: What do you think made you undateable?
A: I don't want it yet. I love going out, but I'm argumentative. And trust issues.

Q: What's it like dating in a city where everyone’s always busy?
A: It’s made my outlook on relationships change. It really is a two way street, you both have to want to put in equal effort. Sometimes the hustle is way more satisfying when you both collect your coins.

Q: What’s the best way to get out of an argument with your significant other?
A: Oh i think avoidance isn't a good idea (as in: I avoid relationships).

Q: What's one piece of relationship advice you've been given that still rings true?
A: Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.

Q: What's the cringiest thing a date’s ever asked you?
A: "Considering what happened [him giving me an STI] could you give me that second date now?" and he wasn’t trying to make light or be funny.

Status: Single

Q: What’s the longest you’ve ever been single?
A: I didn't date anyone from when I was born until I was 17, so 17 years.

Q: What’s your favourite first date spot?
A: A bar in the East Village called Drexler’s because it's a stone's throw from my apartment and I am lazy.

Q: What’s your favourite coupled-up date spot?
A: My couch because it's inside my apartment and I am lazy.

Q: What’s one piece of relationship advice you’ve been given that still rings true?
A: "When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags." - BoJack Horseman S2E10

Q: If you had to choose between staying in love or staying in the city which would you pick?
A: The city, because that’s a relationship I can control. I can leave here whenever I want but the city can't leave me.

Q: Dating apps: apocalyptic or epic?
A: I don't consider myself an expert here because I've only dabbled, but I'll go ahead and say apocalyptic.

Q: Do you have a single-life mantra?
A: Always be open to taking risks, except if he doesn't want to use a condom.

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Status: Single

Q: What’s your favourite first date spot?
A: Love doing bar trivia.  It's a nice change of pace, always something to keep the conversation moving, and if they fill that magic music/sports knowledge hole, I've got the wedding ring immediately ready to go.

Q: What’s your favourite coupled-up date spot?
A: Escape Rooms are the premiere place to let festering resentments explode in new and exciting ways in front of your closest friends.

Q: What’s the best way to get into an argument with your significant other?
A: "Those jeans?"

Q: What’s the sweetest thing a love's ever done for you?
A: Kindly ignoring the fact I wear flip flops way too much for a normal human.

Q: What does it take to get you to fall in love?
A: Someone who already knows who they are, doesn't need me to fill a personality hole, wants to watch Star Wars, and sing bad karaoke. Simple!

Q: Are you a Mickey or are you a Gus?
A: Sadly, a total Gus. Have I been guilty of buying DVD’s for director commentaries? Check. Do I often think I'm more quirky and endearing than I actually am? Check. Do I get too much into my headspace about situations I should just sit back and enjoy? Check. Send help!

Status: In a relationship

Q: How does your current status make you feel?
A: Safe and comforted.

Q: What do you think made you undateable?
A: I’m a bit of a dry-clean only kind of mess.

Q: What’s the longest you’ve ever been single?
A: 4 years.

Q: What’s your favourite first date spot?
A: $1 pizza and a walk on the west side.

Q: What’s your favourite coupled-up date spot?
A: $1 pizza and Netflix documentary night.

Q: What’s the best way to get out of an argument with your significant other?
A: Take a step back and ask yourself, is this really worth it?

Q: What’s the best way to get into an argument with your significant other?
A: Forget about everything they are and instead think about your insecurities.

Q: What’s one piece of relationship advice you’ve been given that still rings true?
A: It’s all a numbers game.

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