Meet The Undateables: Devon and Bobby

We took two New Yorkers who swear they're totally undateable, and put our matchmaking skills to the test
Undateables M. Butterfly
Photograph: Marc Whalen
Time Out in association with M. Butterfly |

Each week, we take two New Yorkers who swear they're totally undateable, and put our matchmaking skills to the test. For this week’s attempted connection, we sent our lonely-in-love daters out for omakase at Sushi By Bou and a performance of the critically-acclaimed new Broadway show, M. Butterfly. Afterwards, we found out what went right and what went wrong.

You only have a few more weeks to see the show – closes January 14, 2018. Get your tickets here.

Why they’re single:

Bobby: He’s very career focused and has trust issues.

Devon: He’s holding out for the right person and doesn’t go on too many dates.

Ideal date:

Bobby: Just hanging out and smoking with no pressure

Devon: Going out for a nice dinner and seeing a good show


First impression

Bobby: “My first thought was that he looked a lot like an ex of mine, but I didn’t say anything because that’s always so weighted. I thought he was cute and really sweet.”

Devon: “He was very stylish, and I liked his sense of fashion. We started talking immediately, and the conversation really flowed. We have a similar sense of humor.”


Bobby: “We had a lot in common. I always get lunch from the Chipotle on the west side of Bryant Park and he always goes to the Chipotle on the east side of Bryant Park.”

Devon: “I think there was a little romantic vibe. We were both polite and nervous at first, but yeah, we definitely had some chemistry. We shared a lot of obscure pop culture references.”

Awkward Moment

Bobby: “We went to a sushi restaurant, but neither one of us is that into sushi. We were really relieved that we felt the same way. We still tried everything they brought out!”

Devon: “I had to pee so bad during the first act of M. Butterfly that I leaned over and was like, ‘Alright. There’s a chance I may not make it.’ At intermission, I ran straight for the bathroom.” 

Thoughts on M. Butterfly

Bobby: "I love Julie Taymor, so I was really excited to see it. It had a lot of interesting things to say about lying to yourself in a relationship, and how you can sometimes create idea of who the other person is and don't let them be themselves. We both agreed that Jin Ha was amazing."

Devon: "[The show] really reminds you not to lose yourself in a relationship. We're both artists, and we had a shared knowledge of theater so it was interesting to talk about it. We had to go out for drinks after to discuss it more."

After the show

Bobby: "I thought it was really interesting how the show stepped away from the obvious heartbreak of the story and played more to the humor of the script. It definitely gave us a lot to deconstruct and relate to some of our past experiences.”

Devon: "I love all of the inspirations behind the show—from Madame Butterfly to Miss Saigon—so it was fun to talk about how they all connected. Overall, the show was great for a date because it gave us so much to talk about.”

How the night ended

Bobby: “We both live in Astoria, so we took the train together, got food from a taco truck and then brought it back to my place. We kissed goodbye, then went in for a second kiss.”

Devon: “We picked up some food and then hung out at his place for a bit. We kissed right before I left and exchanged numbers. I think we’ll definitely see each other again.”


Bobby: ♥♥♥♥ “It was really nice. We had a lot in common. He’s a very solid person, and he’s very real. There was no put on or anything. He just seemed like himself.”

Devon: ♥♥♥♥ “There was a good connection. We shared a lot of inside, obscure references and had similar interests. It definitely exceeded my expectations.”

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