Holiday gift guide 2012: Gay & Lesbian

Ben Cohen 2013 calendar Proceeds from the sale of this wall-hanger featuring the hunky retired rugby star go to the Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation, which is devoted to ending bullying, particularly against gay kids. Available at standupfoundation.com, $35

Leslie-Lohman membershipsAvailable at Leslie-Lohman Museum of Gay & Lesbian Art, 26 Wooster St between Canal and Grand Sts (212-431-2609), or online at leslielohman.org; $35–$1,000

Queer erotica Go 50 shades of gay! These anthologies from Cleis Press will help keep things steamy during the cold months. Available from cleispress.com and amazon.com, $15–$16