I remember the frantic look in her eyes when my neighbour rang my doorbell for the first time – her eight-year-old daughter was having a seizure and needed a ride to the hospital, a quick five-minute drive from our flat. My dad scooped the girl into his arms, placing her in the backseat of our car while her mother sat anxiously next to her. We checked her into A&E and waited with my neighbour. It didn't matter that we had only exchanged pleasantries in the corridor and elevator prior to the incident. In that moment, we were there for each other. But it shouldn't take a life or death incident for us to create a bond with our neighbours.
When my parents tell me stories of the kampung (compounds), they recall idyllic days playing five stones, chasing chickens and gathering around a tiny television shared by the whole village. Instead of retreating to the privacy of their homes at the end of the day, they were encouraged to go out, play and mingle. And to me, that's what the kampung spirit is all about – having a meaningful relationship with neighbours and lending a helping hand when needed. Just because we've traded wooden shacks for towering flats, it doesn't mean that the essence of kampung spirit has to die. After all, what are the heartlands without some heart?
When was the last time you had a conversation with your neighbours? When was the last time you invited someone from your block into your home for a meal or even a cup of kopi? If your answer is yesterday, some time this week or this month, then great – you're a rare breed and the rest of us could learn a thing or two from you. Even looking up from our phone to smile at our neighbours would be a start because, let's face it, everyone know there's no 4G connection one those doors close anyway.
And even if your neighbours don't seem to be interested in making conversation, just take that tentative first step and try. You'll never know what a simple 'hello' can lead to...
This month, we challenge you to make more of an effort. Halloween might not be as popular as it is in the States, but it's a good excuse to ring on doorbells and get to know your neighbours a little better. The kiddos will also appreciate the candy you leave by the door. Go forth and spread love!