While attitudes towards female pleasure are generally more positive and accepting, mainstream sex parties remain very male-focused. But a new wave of events are providing a safe space for women and non-binary people to explore their sexuality away from the male gaze. We talk to the organisers.
Founder and host of Lady Liquid Love by Pleasure Island Parties. It’s a ‘guided touch tour’ exclusively for women (including trans and non-binary folk) that was founded in 2017.
‘As a sexological bodyworker, I run Lady Liquid Love as a safe space where women are given permission to explore sensuality. It’s a collective journey exploring playfulness and skin-to-skin contact using warm olive oil. One woman told me that it felt immensely tender and loving and that there was a palpable feeling of the divine feminine energy in the room.’
Founder of Skirt Club, a ‘ladies-only’ private members’ network. It holds sex parties every month and has been running since 2014.
‘I set it up for women discovering their bisexuality. With no men there’s no one there to perform for. Our 5,000 members are varied – from a 19-year-old year student to a 49-year-old mother of two who’s recently divorced. Thousands of women [have] messaged me saying, “Skirt Club changed my life. I found a part of myself I didn’t know existed.”’
Founder of Killing Kittens. Known for its exclusive sex parties for couples and single women, Killing Kittens was set up in 2005 and now has an online community of 100,000 members.
‘There was nowhere for women to feel in control and explore their sexuality without being judged, so I started Killing Kittens. It’s a women-first environment with a strict set of rules: girls are in control and must make the first move. The number of single women aged 20 to 25 attending the events has almost doubled in the last two years.’