Five blind-dateable Angelinos get real about love in the city

From first date spots to finishing an argument before it gets started, these former “I have this friend... ” stars know when to go there
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Real love isn’t like the movies. It doesn’t start with a meet-cute and end in happily ever after. Real love is strange, complicated and often-times messy. Especially in Los Angeles.

To celebrate the final season of Love, streaming now on Netflix, we’ve asked Angelinos we once tried to fix up through our dating column ‘I have this friend…’  to share their thoughts and advice on love and romance. Love starts off where happy endings finish–it’s tangled, twisty and unflinching. Just like the folks we feature in our column. If you’ve ever wondered ‘where are they now’, here’s your answer.

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Shane stands against a white background
Photograph: Jakob N. Layman

Shane

Status: In a relationship

Q: How does your current status make you feel?
A: Finding love in Los Angeles? I feel like the luckiest guy in the world.

Q: What’s the longest you’ve ever been single?
A: Four years.

Q: What's your favourite coupled-up date spot?
A:  It has to involve food, so either Republique, Catch LA or Tortilla Republic for dinner or CoolHaus for after.

Q: What's the best way to get out of an argument with your significant other?
A: Walk away and give each other a half hour of personal time. And then go get a sweet treat together. You don't have to apologize for feeling how you did, but sometime soon after, apologize for letting something come between you two.

Q: What's the best way to get into an argument with your significant other?
A: Fidget on your phone while they're talking to you.

Q: What's the cringiest thing a date's ever asked you?
A:  "How do you not smell like curry with a last name like Singh?"

Q: What's the sweetest thing a love's ever done for you?
A: My boyfriend brought Christmas Eve dinner to my family when we had to spend it in the hospital because my mom was recovering from a car accident.

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Caylie

Status: In a relationship

Q: How does your current status make you feel?
A: Happier than I could have imagined even though I was already super content being on my own. My person has added another level of happiness I didn’t know could truly exist. I feel more driven to be my best for myself and for her. Driven to do more, feel more, and live more. Driven to show my love for her every day and give her what she deserves.

Q: Aside from being featured on 'I have this friend', have you ever been set up by a friend?
A:  Never. Most of my friends in LA are straight and I’m typically the “token” lesbian in their lives (#WeAreAMinorityForReal).

Q: What's your favourite first date spot?
A: Grand Central Market in DTLA.

Q: What's your favourite coupled-up date spot?
A: THE WIZARDING WORLD OF MF HARRY POTTER.

Q: What's one piece of relationship advice you've been given that still rings true?  
A: To truly listen. To not wait for my person to stop talking just so I can say the thoughts that have been going through my head as my person has been talking to me. I keep my head clear so I can truly listen then talk out my thoughts after my person has finished speaking.

Q: Are you a Mickey or are you a Gus?
A: They are both so flawed, like all of us humans are. I’d say at this point in the show I think I’m more of a Mickey because she seems more self-aware of her issues and seems to know more of what she wants and why she wants it…kind of…

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Diallo

Status: Single

Q: How does your current status make you feel?
A: My number one job is to be happy regardless of outside circumstances.  So the correct answer is "I don't look for a relationship or another person to make me happy." But hey, I'm also human. There's a reason in prison they put you into solitary confinement if you mess up. Humans need each other on some level so it's cool to use self-empowerment talk as a guide, but that's not all there is to life.

Q: What's your favourite first date spot?
A: I'm a low-key introvert type person so I prefer somewhere we can face either other and talk and actually hear each other,  be it a coffee shop, a smaller bar, or even just a walk. My favorite bar in LA is West 4th and Jane in Santa Monica.

Q: What's it like dating in a city that's notorious for being full of the most attractive people?
A:  It's not so bad.  I think LA gets a bad rap actually. Most people I think end up going out with others they find something interesting about, regardless of looks.  Your compass will lead you to who matches your spirit on the inside as well as out. Sure plenty of on-the-surface shenanigans goes on around here, but there are millions of people in LA so the odds really are in your favor....even if you're ugly as sin.

Q: What's the sweetest thing a love's ever done for you?
A: I traveled to Hawaii to compete in a triathlon and I found the sweetest note from the girl I was dating. She somehow hid it in my luggage and I had no idea it would be there. It was the best.  She broke up with me a month later though.

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Trishna

Q: What's your favourite first date spot?
A: Happy Hour at Perch.

Q: What's it like dating in a city that's notorious for being full of the most attractive people?
A:  We are a beautiful city, but Los Angeles is more than botox, yoga, and green smoothies. It doesn't phase me. But there are days (and we all have them), where I feel like I’ve been cast as the best friend in a rom-com.  

Q: What's one piece of relationship advice you've been given that still rings true?
A:  One: My Dad always said to embody the core traits I want in a partner. You want brains and a sense of humor? Guess what what I got to have?
Two: If he wants to see you, he will make plans with you. Refer to my old article for Time Out LA called Persistent Flakers.

Q: Dating apps: apocalyptic or epic?
A: A little bit of both? I haven't swiped right in nearly four years. I love myself a good ol' fashioned meet cute-- offline and in real life. Look up from your phone and there are so many events and random circumstances that lend itself to meeting interesting, like-minded, people. While running the L.A. marathon, waiting at baggage claim at LAX, attending a lecture series at Annenberg Space for Photography.

Q: Do you have a single-life mantra? What is it?
A: SOLO! (She Only Lives Once) *** Be bold. Be Kind. Be vulnerable. And don't take yourself too seriously.

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Corey

Status: Single

Q: What's your favourite coupled-up date spot?
A: A night in.  A beach concert.  A lounge. Pelican Hill.  Picnic at Echo Park Lake. The Comedy Store. Looking for a gal that can get down with any or all.

Q: What's it like dating in a city that's notorious for being full of the most attractive people?
A: "If you're pretty, you're pretty; but the only way to be beautiful is to be loving. Otherwise, it's just 'congratulations about your face.'" - Abraham Lincoln [Ed note: This was actually John Mayer]

Q: What's the best way to get out of an argument with your significant other?
A: Know your facts. Be open-minded.  Listen. Give a Ric Flair 'Woo!' then quietly exit the room.

Q: Dating apps: apocalyptic or epic?
A: I've skillfully perfected 234,908,454 ways of responding to 'Hey Corey :)  How are you?' and only used 3 of them because my fingers fell off from all the text pong.  

Q: What does it take to get you to fall in love?
A: A partner so passionate about something it's contagious.

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