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How the LGBTQ+ community in New York has been staying connected

LGBTQ+ New Yorkers tell us how they've been staying in touch with the local scene during these unprecedented times.

Will Gleason
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New York has changed drastically over the last few months and that transformation has affected the city's LGBTQ+ community, as well. In the past, bonds could be forged over drinks at a gay bar, in the lobby before a downtown performance, at a Bushwick warehouse party or at any of the city's many queer gatherings. Now, many of that is forced to take place through a computer screen or from at least six feet away.

Like everyone else, New York's LGBTQ+ community has adapted to the new normal—moving gatherings online, connecting over video chat and Zoom and joining the protest sweeping the city calling for systemic change and an end to racial injustice. This Pride month, we checked in with LGBTQ+ New Yorkers we love to see how they're staying connected with staying apart.

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Michael R. Jackson

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Photograph: Joey Stocks

Pulitzer Prize–winning playwright, @thelivingmichaeljackson

I've always been a bit of a loner so I've not necessarily been as connected to the LGBTQ+ community during these pandemic days as I could be but I do have a group of friends who keep me company in a Sondheimian way, which is to say lots of deep talks, long (socially distanced) walks, telephone (and zoom) calls where we gossip about people or watch the mysterious Denise Richards together on Bravo's Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I've always been a fan of the '80s sitcom Designing Women so that was easy to fall back into but I did not know Carly Simon's spectacular 1985 album Spoiled Girl, which has been on heavy rotation ever since I purchased it and has served as useful fodder and musical inspiration for my next musical White Girl In Danger being developed at the Vineyard Theatre.

Phil Stamper

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Photograph: Krystal Balzer Photography

Author, @stampepk

I've been so grateful for all the video platforms that have kept us connected over the last few months. It's been so inspiring to see our communities move their discussions online, because it allows LGBTQ+ people to hold onto a safe space where they can organize or socialize. This is super important every month, but it's especially necessary during Pride. I've seen a lot of new LGBTQ+ book clubs popping up lately, and I'm a huge fan of that—I'm actually dropping in on a NYC-based book club to discuss my book later this month, and I can't wait to chat with everyone. If you and your friends have been looking for a new way to connect, consider starting or joining a queer book club! Just pick a new LGBTQ+ book to discuss each month, invite all your friends, and have them pass along the invite too. Then grab a glass of wine (or whatever drink you prefer!) and get ready for a good discussion and a fun evening.

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Lauren Patten

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Photograph: Jenny Anderson

Actor, @pattenlauren

This year’s Pride month feels much more introspective for me. I’m connecting one-on-one with my queer friends, and I’m sure that I will find ways to connect to the larger community as the month continues. But I’ve been thinking a lot about the intersection between queer history and the Black Lives Matter movement. Pride was a riot, and is still a protest. Pride was started in large part thanks to Marsha P. Johnson, a black trans activist. We are living in a world in which black trans people are being murdered constantly, and these people are left out of the mainstream media narrative of the BLM movement. So, as a white cis queer person, Pride in 2020 means educating myself and amplifying voices in the Black community—in particular, the voices of the Black trans community.

Lazarus Lynch

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Author and musician, @sonofasouthernchef

The energy of Pride exceeds a single month or festival for me. I am keeping the energy alive through music. My new single "I’m Gay" 
has connected me virtually with so many LGBTQ+ friends around the world. The music video includes Black gay boys around the country who shot themselves dancing to my song on their iPhones. It feels good to use my art as a means of activism, connection, and celebration."

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Randy Rainbow

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Photograph: Courtesy Varela Media

Comedian, @randyrainbow

I’ve been doing lots of virtual cocktail parties with my gay-ass friends, which is cute, but I’m normally a fan of the old “Irish goodbye” and find it’s awkward to just ghost on a four-person Zoom call once I inevitably get bored. I’ve also been watching a lot of the LGBTQ+ documentaries being promoted for Pride. It’s holding me over for now, but I long for the days of yore and look forward to us all sharing germs again.

Sonya Tayeh

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Photograph: Jayme Thornton

Choreographer, @sonyatayeh

The unjust the LGBTQ+ community is experiencing is devastating. As part of this community, I’m working hard to advocate for change. I’m using my voice as an Arab queer woman because fighting for acceptance is fighting for humanity. All of us deserve it. The isolation has been challenging, but I have received wonderful opportunities to connect/teach with young artists from the Julliard School, Steps Conservatory etc. This connection with younger artists has given me such motivation to be a leader and pillar of strength for them in such a trying time.

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Cholula Lemon

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Photograph: Courtesy Jonathan Hamilt

Drag queen, @cholulalemon

As a drag queen, I've been able to remain active within the LGBTQIA+ community through my work with Drag Queen Story Hour. With many of our conventional cultural spaces closed, we've partnered with local schools, libraries, museums and neighborhood organizations for a series of virtual, live-streamed events. We're even hosting a Global Pride Party for kids of all ages with kid-friendly performances featuring drag artists from around the world! The event will take place on Saturday, June 27, at 1pm. Tickets at dqshpride2020.eventbrite.com

Marga Gomez

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Photograph: Brenna Merrit

Comedian and playwright, @themargagomez

I'm bouncing around the ethernet for Pride month, performing in Zoom shows in Portland, San Francisco, L.A. and Tucson. I'm also in preproduction with Dixon Place for the July livestreams of my show Spanking Machine, about growing up brown and queer in Washington Heights. I rehearse remotely with my Queer Latinx director, Adrian Alea, from his place in Harlem. I'm looking forward to connecting with the Dixon Place audience in nightly talkbacks and I am convinced that is where I'll find a virtual NYC girlfriend.

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Becca Blackwell

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Photograph: Max Bernstein

Performer, @theirishhorse

I am mostly hanging with the LGBTQ+ person in the mirror lately. In an unprecedented moment of forced deep reflection, I am looking in the deep wells of who I am because whatever is happening on a macro level is undoubtedly happening on a micro level in myself. And for the good of the world and myself, I am trying to get to the root of my beliefs and see how I am truly viewing the universe and what I am putting into it as well as taking from it. I've stepped way away from social media for personal reasons so I am not as glued into the ethereal shenanigans on that level, but 90 percent of the close friends that I am engaged with IRL/flesh-and-blood are on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, so I am fully immersed in the technicolor rainbow. If I can ground and love those relationships, then I might have a leg to stand on after this.

Cole Escola

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Photograph: Allison Michael Orenstein

Comedian, @coleescola

I watched Encore! on Disney Plus with friends over Zoom recently. It's hard to get five people's TV's synced up perfectly. I've also been watching a lot of bootlegs of Broadway shows and hard-to-find movies which has kept me connected to all of the gay people who share them with me. Which reminds me, can anyone hook me up with a copy of the Holly Woodlawn movie, Scarecrow in a Garden of Cucumbers? I can't find it anywhere.

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Erin Markey

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Photograph: Gregory Kramer

Performer, @erin_markey

We (my partner Gwen, me and our housemate Andy) have been doing a lot of "stoop hangs." Our lezzyish quar thrupple sits at the top of our stoop in Crown Heights and our primarily queer visitors sit at the bottom. Our thrupple made two Instagram Live concerts to raise money for SWOP and Brooklyn Community Bail Fund and lots of our queer buds showed up online with comments and venmo cash. The thrupple works out together every morning now and went on a weird cleanse after two months of heavy drinking and eating. When George Floyd was murdered, we made a bunch of signs and banners together, marched and protested every day, and we ran into a lot of queer friends (all masked and dripping in sanitizer). The queers I know and love show up. I had read The New York Times article on how to safely hug, so I occasionally took the risk and literally held my breath and stayed silent under the veil. My partner and I took a covid test and had to quarantine while we waited for results so we could visit our (on-the-verge-of-social-isolation-death) folks in various parts of Ohio. So when another friend, Desi, DJ-ed a dance party for a small group of lezzyish folk over zoom, it was a socially deprived quarantine highlight. Now we are in Cleveland doing puzzles again. It's the first time the queer thrupple has been separated in three months and now over text we are thinking about buying a 2008 volvo station wagon together. Over the quarantine, we have also considered getting a stripper pole, a top loading freezer, a baby and 75 acres of tick infested property upstate together. I did not know Andy very well before this all started. Our queer community has been three.

Looking for more ways to celebrate Pride this month?

  • LGBTQ+

NYC Pride 2025's theme is "Rise up: Pride in Protest." It's a more defiant stance compared to recent years. "As the LGBTQIA+ community faces increasing hostility and legislative attacks, this year’s theme is a reflection of the Pride movement’s origins in protest—and is a powerful call to action for our communities and allies to rally and march in defiant celebration, advocacy and solidarity," their website reads. President Joe Biden's Press Secretary Karine Jean-Pierre has been named as one of the grand marshals for the NYC Pride March.

Here's the full guide to the march, including where to see it, what time to arrive and the lineup of grand marshals.

  • Music

This isn't a lucid dream—Grace Jones and Janelle Monae are actually performing side by side at the BRIC Celebrate Brooklyn! Festival on June 9, just in time for Pride. This year's festival will take place at the Prospect Park Bandshell and the stars' performance will begin at 7pm (sunset time in June is 8:30pm), so expect good outdoor vibes while witnessing two of the greatest queer performers to ever grace this planet.

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The second oldest Pride in New York City, Queens Pride, might just be the most lit. On Sunday, June 2, expect to kick off Pride with a party, parade and vendors along 37th Avenue in Jackson Heights, which has long been a queer stronghold in the borough. The official celebrations will go from noon until 6pm, but everyone knows that nighttime is when the party actually begins—expect the gay Latin bars in the area, inluding Friends Tavern and Hombres Lounge, to be packed with partygoers well into the early morning hours. 

  • Things to do
  • Events & Festivals

Cardi B and FKA Twigs will headline the iconic Ladyland festival under the K Bridge in June, and we could not be more hyped.

Representing the Bronx on Friday, June 27, Cardi B will be joined by Cobrah, Danny Tenaglia, Sukihana, DJ sets by Hercules and Love Affair, among many others, while FKA Twigs will present songs from her Eusexua tour with support from Pabllo Vittar, Boris, Eartheater, VTSS, Isabella Lovestory, Kevin Aviance and more on Saturday, June 28.

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Elsewhere is already pretty gay on a regular weekend, but their Pride party every summer cranks it up several noches. For a 12-hour long extravaganza that starts at 4pm and goes til 4am, the beloved Bushwick megaclub is bringing in Only Fire & Friends to its main hall, with a rooftop party during the day hosted by the AAPI queer collective Bubble_T on June 28. Other DJs who will be in the house that night include River Moon, Memphy and Sevyn 0000. 

Sure, you've heard of wine pairings. But what about books and burlesque pairings?

During this show at Caveat on Saturday, June 14, award-winning authors will read excerpts from their new books. Then, a burlesque or drag performer will present a spectacular new act they created that was inspired by the book pairing. For Pride Month, the show is extra special with an impressive cast of "wildly queer and spectacular burlesque and drag performers."

The lineup features: Sierra Greer reading from her debut novel Annie Bot, paired with a performance by Tabby Twitch. Then there's the book Dyke Delusions: Essays and Observations by Samantha Mann, which Nina Divina will interpret through movement. Next up is a novel called I Leave It Up To You by Jinwoo Chong paired with a Fortune Cookie performance. See Antonio Amour's exploration of Milo Todd's debut novel The Lilac People. Finally, there's Paul Lisicky's book Song So Wild and Blue: A Life with the Music of Joni Mitchell paired with a Diva LaMarr performance. The show's produced and hosted by Fortune Cookie.

Local bookstore Book Club Bar (197 East 3rd Street) will sell signed copies of all the books featured at the show.

Time Out tip: Tickets go fast for this show, but if it sells out, there will be a waitlist at the door. There's also a livestream option.

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  • Art

Back in the 1970s, there was a common rallying cry at early LGBTQ+ marches: "Out of the closets! Into the streets!" An exhibit at The Hispanic Society Museum & Library borrows that refrain for its title as it brings together 18 photographs by Francisco Alvarado-Juárez that highlight the chaotic and colorful vitality of this first iteration of Pride.

The photographs of the 1975 and 1976 marches showcase the racial and ethnic diversity of the movement and reveal the nuanced bonds of kinship formed among marchers from disparate backgrounds. In these early days, Pride was a local effort in New York City known as the Christopher Street Liberation Day March or the Gay Liberation Parade. Held as a direct response to the Stonewall Uprising of 1969, the events were a call for increased queer visibility at a time when New York still enforced so-called "sodomy" laws that facilitated the repression of the LGBTQ+ community.

See the exhibition at the Hispanic Society Museum & Library in Washington Heights through August 31, 2025. It's free to visit.

  • LGBTQ+

This annual event brings noise, puppets and plenty of body positivity to NYC's streets the day before the Pride March. BYO signs and banners, and keep in mind that the Dyke March doesn't have a permit—it's a protest, not a parade—so be prepared for possible interference from the fuzz. The march itself is open to all self-identified dykes, "especially BIPOC, transfemme, transmasc, bi, pan, lesbian & nonbinary." All other supporters are encouraged to cheer from the sidelines.

The March begins at Bryant Park (6th Ave/42nd Street) at 5pm on Saturday, June 28. 

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Back for its second year, celebrate queer musical talent in all its glory at PRISM Festival from June 14 to June 28 at Judson Memorial Church in Greenwich Village as well as The Brick Theater in Williamsburg. Watch creative teams taking part in concert-style, semi-staged performances dedicated to amplifying the voices of queer artists and musical theater. This is how it works: four creative teams embark on a paid developmental process spanning a minimum of 29 hours of rehearsal, culminating in two captivating weeks of concert-style performances.

The plays at this year's PRISM Festival of New Queer Musicals include be Like BONE, created by Storm Thomas Directed, nicHi douglas and Rose Van Dyne; See/Unsee by Lila Blue, Ren Dara Santiago, Jillian Jetton and Noga Cabo; and others. Tickets go on sale on May 16 here.

  • LGBTQ+

We don't usually put "Pride" and "sports" in the same sentence, but this year we're staying open-minded. On Friday, June 13, the Mets will be hosting their annual Pride celebration, which will include a night of DJs, entertainment, themed cocktails, free merch for the first 15,000 atendees, and of course, sports! If you want to get the party started earlier, join the pre-game party at K Korner hosted by Drag Legend Jan Sport starting at 5pm. 

Baseball fan or not, you know deep down this is an excuse to get all the girls and gays in one stadium.

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  • LGBTQ+

The borough’s more-manageable LGBTQ+ celebration—several weeks before the big to-do in Manhattan—includes a movie night, performances, a 5K run and a parade. The parade, known as the city's only twilight parade, runs along 5th Avenue in Park Slope between Lincoln Place and 9th Street on Saturday, June 14. Expect floats and thousands of marchers. 

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  • LGBTQ+

Despite upsetting news that the National Endowment of the Arts revoked $20,000 from the Criminal Queerness Festival in early May, the festival has defiantly chosen to continue its programming June 11 to June 22 at the Perelman Performing Arts Center.

Criminal Querness Festival is organized by the National Queer Theater and has been dedicated to showing queer and trans artists from countries that criminalize or censor LGBTQ+ communities. The festival is an official event of NYC Pride and this year's festival will feature screenings of Tomorrow Never Came, written by Jedidiah Mugarura and set in 1987 Uganda; What You Are to Me by Dena Igusti, which explores the relationship between an aspiring singer and a zine editor; and others. 

Because of the current climate, it's asking for the community to rally around its cause by buying tickets or donating.

  • LGBTQ+

Queer art is under attack, which means that if there's ever been a time to support LGBTQ+ artists, it's probably now. Luckily, despite the de-funding of queer programs across the country, the Queerly Festival will be back for its 11th year at UNDER St. Mark's (94 St Marks Place) and you can expect a slate of performances highlighting queer joy and resistence from June 12 until July 3. 

Whether it's a one-woman show exploring current affairs through the perspective of two gay boys, a Drag History Hour that recounting the story of the Harlem Renaissance, or a play about a trans girl who leaves sex work to return home to her estranged mother, the performances will run the gamut from the defiant to the hilarious and heart-wrenching. Make sure to check out FRIGID's website for the full schedule and programming. 

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  • Nightlife

Market Hotel, the nightclub at eye-level with the train tracks on Myrtle-Broadway, has emerged as one of the go-to underground venues in Bushwick, and every year its Pride party offers a grungier alternative to the happy-go-lucky functions of Hell's Kitchen. If you're trying to stir from Madonna remixes and prefer to get into some techno, trance and other harder genres—while still being super gay, of course—you'll want to be here from 11pm till late on June 28 for its so-called "Alphabet Mafia" party. Expect high BPM sets by Coral Kill, Vice, Boyfriend Dick and others.

  • LGBTQ+

On June 26, the dynamic duo behind TETEO Pride and Mercury in Reggaeton are bringing the fourth installment of their Pride series, DL Pride. The Latin-centered queer party is bringing a star-studded lineup of DJs that will include talent from NYC to Mexico City as well as the city's fiercest hosts to create an overall immaculate energy. Expect sets by Tommy Hart, Alexis de la Rosa, Flirty800 and resident DJ SKYWALKER. Join them at SILO Brooklyn and step into your full Thunderpuss fantasy—Because there will be nothing "down low" about this party.

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  • Movies

Take your movie-going experience to the next level this summer at Rooftop Cinema Club. The experience offers a chance to watch a movie on a Midtown rooftop with vegan popcorn, classic theater candy, and craft cocktails.

For Pride Month, screenings include But I'm a Cheerleader, The Color Purple, Showgirls, and more. As part of Pride Month, $1 from every Pride screening ticket will be donated to The Trevor Project. Get tickets here.

  • LGBTQ+

It's not everyday you see "Cathedral" and "Pride month" in the same sentence, but that's what makes Saint John the Divine Cathedral so dang iconic. The world's largest Gothic Cathedral will host a month of celebrations featuring a mix of lively performances, thought-provoking discussions, and family-friendly activities. The celebrations will kick off on May 31 or "Pride Eve," with a performance of "the Greedy Peasant." There will also be a family picnic on June 14; A free Juneteenth concert by the Gay Men's Choir on June 20; and a Pride Evensong service on June 29, a perfect way to repent for everything we'll be doing in June.

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