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Meet the Undateables: Lisa and Demar

Each week, we take two New Yorkers who swear they’re totally undateable, and put our matchmaking skills to the test

Will Gleason
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Photograph: Ann Sullivan

Why they’re single:
Lisa: She doesn’t prioritize dating.
Demar: He’s looking for a genuine connection but just hasn’t met the right person.

Ideal date:
Lisa: Dinner and a good comedy show
Demar: Dinner and drinks


First impression
Lisa: “I thought he was really handsome, but I was taller than him in heels, which I didn’t care for. He was really intelligent and engaging. He seemed very smart.”
Demar: “I got there late and a little frazzled, but he was super nice and not at all pissed off. He was cute and charming and the only person I’ve dated who’s been taller than me.”

Lisa: “I felt like he acted a bit younger than his age. He was mature about a lot of things, but, just socially, he seemed like he was in a bit of a younger stage in his life.”
Demar: “I got more of a friends vibe. She was very inquisitive. She asked a lot of good follow-up questions. If there had been an attraction, it would have been a great first date.”

Awkward Moment
Lisa: “I asked him what he thought was the appropriate time to say ‘I love you’ to someone, and he said a month and a half. I was like, Woah, buddy. I’d say closer to six months.”
Demar: “I yawned a couple of times toward the end of the night, and she was like: ‘You’re the first person to ever yawn on a date with me.’ I wasn’t bored—it was just getting late.”

Lisa: “He asked me if I would go on a second date with someone if he was, like, a six out of 10. I couldn’t tell if he was asking about us or just in general. I said no.”
Demar: “We hugged goodbye and then both got cabs. We didn’t exchange numbers, and I don’t think I’ll see her again. The night kind of felt like talking to an old friend.”

Lisa: ♥ "I had no expectations about how it might go, and it went fine. It turned out to be pretty okay. It could have been worse. It just didn’t quite feel romantic.”
Demar: ♥ “The night wasn’t awkward in any sense. The food was good; the restaurant was great. I kind of want to go back to hang out with the bartender.”

Our daters went to Gupshup (115 East 18th St, 212-518-7313)

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Best date ideas in NYC

  • Restaurants
  • French
  • Greenwich Village
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A West Village institution with classy decor, Minetta Tavern serves up that famous burger that’s on your bucket list. After your splurge, turn things up a notch at Marie’s Crisis Café, the iconic piano bar down the street. You can listen to some show tunes and join in the singing once you’ve got a few drinks in you. Who knows, maybe you and your date will harmonize!

  • Nightlife
  • Nightlife
  • Lower East Side

Drop your inhibitions at this seductive, throwback lounge. Cheeky performers will leave you and your date laughing, curious and maybe a bit aroused. From your table by the stage (the space is small enough that there’s not really a bad seat in the house) expect the unexpected as aerial performers, singers, comedians, dancers and sexily clad lads and laddies perform circus and sideshow tricks. You’ll be hard-pressed to find anything like it in the Lower East Side—or anywhere else.

  • Things to do
  • Downtown Brooklyn

Dreamland Roller Disco in Prospect Park provides a modern twist on a retro date. Besides, isn’t there something cute about falling on your butts together? What makes Dreamland special are its themed nights. From Gaga vs Madonna to Soul Train to Y2K Disco, you're bound to find the perfect theme that will get you going regardless of your skating skills.

  • Things to do
  • Flatiron

The Museum of Sex always has something exciting going on behind closed doors. "Super Funland: Journey into the Erotic Carnival" is back and better than ever with its 4-D immersive “Tunnel of Love” ride, the Love & Lust Deity Derby game, an erotic fortune-telling machine (modeled as RuPaul), a kissing booth, the Glory Stall game, an immersive "Stardust Lane - the Erogenous Kaleidoscope," an erotic mechanical bull and a lit-up climbing structure, "The Climbx," and more. Then when it's time to take the edge off, visitors can slide down a spiral slide into the Museum’s psychedelic carnival bar, Lollipop Lounge, for cocktails. 

  • Restaurants
  • Austrian
  • Ridgewood

The Austrian-inspired cuisine and lived-in but chic aesthetic make Porcelain a charming first-date option. The prices are refreshingly low, too, with plates in the $10 range. Grab a couple of big, plush chairs, then split brunch and a pastry or three. If that’s not as sweet as can be, we don’t know what is. 

  • Things to do
  • City Life

You don’t need to fly out west or cruise up to the Adirondacks to experience luxury camping. For a quick escape from the concrete jungle this fall, you can just head to a peaceful camping oasis on historic Governors Island. Collective Governors Island, the luxury campground on the western side of Governors Island, reopened last month and you can currently book a stay well beyond Labor Day Weekend.  The six-acre retreat, created by glamping hospitality group Collective Retreats, provides complimentary and unlimited access to a private water taxi from 4pm to 10pm daily for guests to arrive on the island and begin their getaways. 

  • Restaurants
  • Financial District

In a boomerang to its first location, Chikarashi Isso’s third form splits the difference between new restaurant and relaunch. Its lilting, 30-seat dining room is as lovely as ever, and fun tipples like Suntory whiskey highballs on tap will still be available, in addition to wine and sake. But Kobayashi’s menu is brand new. The chef’s selection of seasonal tempura, for example, might include shrimp, scallops and chrysanthemum, all recognizable even beneath a carefully-calibrated coating. Everything here, including the chicken karaage, dote beef stew and comfort food-adjacent hamkatsu, with turkey ham, gouda, herbs and tomato sauce, is meant to share...which is just another reaosn why it's perfect for a date.

  • Things to do
  • Games and hobbies

Get to know your date by performing a bank heist, a science experiment gone wrong or escaping from an ancient Egyptian tomb—that is, by solving an escape room! Since most escape rooms are blessedly climate controlled, these games are also an excellent thing to do on a rainy day. Take a look at best puzzle games and escape rooms in NYC below and get ready to put your wits to the test. 

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