Worldwide icon-chevron-right North America icon-chevron-right United States icon-chevron-right New York State icon-chevron-right New York icon-chevron-right Meet the Undateables: Soly and Jia
Photograph: Ann Sullivan

Meet the Undateables: Soly and Jia

Each week, we take two New Yorkers who swear they’re totally undateable, and put our matchmaking skills to the test

By Will Gleason

Why they’re single:
Jia: She’s ethically non-monogamous.
Soly: She feels like dating apps are too draining.

Ideal date:
Jia: Going to a water park where there’s a beach, a concert and a food-truck festival
Soly: Watching a movie on the pier and having a picnic


First impression
Jia: “She was a bit nervous and out of breath when she showed up. She wasn’t really my type, but as I got to know her, I found we had a similar sense of humor.”
Soly: “I thought she was warm and friendly. I was a little frazzled and sweaty because I had just run over and was a little late. I don’t really have a type, but she seemed outgoing.”

Jia: “No romantic chemistry; I think we were on the same page. It’s a very queer thing to bring up astrology, and we talked about that. We didn’t have compatible signs.”
Soly: “No chemistry. It was probably one of the quickest dates I’ve ever been on. She brought up a lot of movies that I’d never seen, so I feel like I kind of disappointed her.”

Awkward Moment
Jia: “It started pouring really hard during our date, and that kind of ruined it. I kind of wanted to go home after that. I wasn’t expecting it, so I didn’t even have an umbrella.”
Soly: “Probably how sweaty I was at the beginning. I had to dab myself with a napkin at one point; it was really bad. She said she didn’t mind, but she probably did.”

Jia: “We brought dessert outside to eat, and then it started to rain. I told her I wanted to go, and I gave her a hug goodbye. We had exchanged our social media earlier.”
Soly: “It just started torrential raining. So, that’s when the date ended. We didn’t exchange numbers, but we did add each other on Facebook. We haven’t talked, though.”

Jia: ♥ “There were a lot of awkward pauses and a lot of nervousness. I felt like I put a lot into getting prepared for the date and that it wasn’t exactly matched.”
Soly: ♥ “There just wasn’t really a spark. Both of us were making an effort, but it wasn’t really there. I really do think I disappointed her a lot with some of my answers.”

Our daters went to Time Out Market New York (55 Water St, 917-810-4855)

RECOMMENDED: See more Undateables

Want to be set up on a free blind date? Email

Best date ideas in NYC

Marie's Crisis
Photograph: Time Out/Ali Garber

Feast at Minetta Tavern, then drink and sing at Marie’s Crisis Café

Restaurants French Greenwich Village

A West Village institution with classy decor, Minetta Tavern serves up that famous burger that’s on your bucket list. After your splurge, turn things up a notch at Marie’s Crisis Café, the iconic piano bar down the street. You can listen to some show tunes and join in the singing once you’ve got a few drinks in you. Who knows, maybe you and your date will harmonize!

Photograph: Francine Daveta

See a burlesque show at the Slipper Room

Nightlife Nightlife Lower East Side

Drop your inhibitions at this seductive, throwback lounge. Cheeky performers will leave you and your date laughing, curious and maybe a bit aroused. From your table by the stage (the space is small enough that there’s not really a bad seat in the house) expect the unexpected as aerial performers, singers, comedians, dancers and sexily clad lads and laddies perform circus and sideshow tricks. You’ll be hard-pressed to find anything like it in the Lower East Side—or anywhere else.

Dreamland Roller Disco
Photograph: Courtesy Dreamland Roller Disco

Couple skate during Dreamland Roller Disco

Things to do Downtown Brooklyn

Dreamland Roller Disco in Prospect Park provides a modern twist on a retro date. Besides, isn’t there something cute about falling on your butts together? What makes Dreamland special are its themed nights. From Gaga vs Madonna to Soul Train to Y2K Disco, you're bound to find the perfect theme that will get you going regardless of your skating skills.

Gallow Green
Photograph: Paul Wagtouicz

Have a rooftop tipple at Gallow Green

Bars Cocktail bars Chelsea

Many of the city’s various rooftop bars rely heavily on their views as the main selling point for their overpriced drinks. But atop Chelsea’s McKittrick Hotel (the home of the famed Sleep No More) is this highly conceptualized romantic garden party meets cocktail lounge. 

Photograph: Time Out/Ali Garber

Get cozy on the cheap at Porcelain

Restaurants Austrian Ridgewood

The Austrian-inspired cuisine and lived-in but chic aesthetic make Porcelain a charming first-date option. The prices are refreshingly low, too, with plates in the $10 range. Grab a couple of big, plush chairs, then split brunch and a pastry or three. If that’s not as sweet as can be, we don’t know what is. 

Kick Axe Throwing
Photograph: Courtesy Kick Axe Throwing

Sharpen your skills at Kick Axe Throwing

News Drinking

Craving an out-of-the-ordinary daytime date that doesn’t involve drinking the afternoon away? Kick Axe Throwing, in Gowanus is an urban adventure that's bound to make you look like a badass—plus, it opens at 11am during the week. Before chucking those hatchets, peruse the Runner & Stone café a few blocks away for a caffeine or pastry fix.

Photograph: Courtesy VR World

Trip out at VR World NYC

Attractions Arcades and amusements Midtown East

New York is brimming with unique, exciting activities. But if you’re pining for something truly cutting-edge, explore another city—or another planet, for that matter—by bringing your date to VR World, a theme park that proffers 50 mind-bending interactive experiences.

Photograph: Courtesy Pips / Liz Clayman

Stay for a while (or just a minute) at Pips

Restaurants Italian Brooklyn Heights

Versatility is a key quality in a date spot: somewhere you want to stay but can still bolt if need be. If that’s what you’re seeking, get thee to Jared Braithwaite’s bar Pips, which sports an impressive wine selection alongside small plates inspired by coastal Italian cuisine. Plus, it’s right on Atlantic Avenue, so your subway escape-route options are plentiful. 

Brooklyn Botanic Garden
Photograph: Shutterstock

Bask in the beauty of the Brooklyn Botanic Garden

Attractions Parks and gardens Prospect Park

You and your special someone don’t have to travel far to feel like you’re in an idyllic pastoral paradise with this century-old Kings County NYC park. Nestled away by Prospect Park, you’ll find over 50 acres of cherry blossoms, rose gardens and the bright flora of the tropics in the balmy conservatory. No matter the season, you’ll be sure to see beautiful plant life.

Nitehawk Cinema
Photograph: Gabi Porter

Feast and catch a flick at Nitehawk Cinema

Movie theaters Independent Williamsburg

Why bother going to two separate places when you can combine this classic date at one fantastic eat-in cinema? Grab one of the luxurious, big comfy chairs and take advantage of the table with the seats. Chow down on tacos, burgers, charcuterie or small plates as you take in buzzworthy indie films and retro re-releases. And be sure to take advantage of the sweet cocktail and beer menu. 


    You may also like