1. You want options. Meet somewhere you can get one drink and leave if it sucks, but also get dinner if it works.
2. You want somewhere busy for safety’s sake and to cover awkward chat, but not so popular you might have to awkwardly stand waiting in a queue (that’s a no to Kong and Mamasita).
3. Go Dutch. Even if you’re happy to pay for someone else, your date shouldn’t feel like they owe you.
4. Don’t get too personal. That pasta joint where your grandparents fell in love? Save it for round two if there is one. Boundaries.
It’s busy, fun, you can commit to as little as a basket of wings and a beer, or stay for a full Southern feast, chased by a $200 bottle of Champagne and oysters at 5am.
Allegedly, everyone’s conducting their sexual Spanish Inquisitions at this pseudo-nightclub with frozen treats.
So many options at this mod-Vietnamese gem: cocktails or a beer in the bar. Pho on the roof. Nightcap on the deck. Done.
There’s a fire and a courtyard and cheap cocktails and boardgames to break the ice. If you get hungry, you can order in from nearby restaurants.
The B.East usually has some bluegrass playing, plus big burgers and sodas, like a good old 1950s knees-up.
Start with a beer on the roof, and the options are endless: Thai dinner at Cookie or a gig at the Toff (or a see-ya-later at the door).
Get a sandwich, and if things are going well, proceed through the fridge to Jungle Boy for drinks out the back.
Downstairs it’s one of the best classic pubs in town, with craft beers, whiskies and parmas, and upstairs is the wine bar, run by an ex-Vue de Monde sommelier.
You can book ahead, so no waiting. There’s a really great vibe and a good mix of wines and piscos, with small and big eats. Bit more expensive, so check that’s OK first.
Congratulations, you’ve both refrained from being total douchebags at round one. Take another roll of the dice. These are your top three considerations for your second first date.
1. Poor? Get a bottle and go somewhere BYO you love.
2. Both love food? Stick to a great place that’s still casual – do you really want to go to the brand-new untested place? Maybe (but only if you've got a good sense of humour and you think a lame dining experience will forge a bond through trauma.)
3. Don’t overlook your own local restaurant/pub. It's nice to show your date what you’re about.
The historical Meyers Lane Italian is a great place to get the measure of a date. Can you love someone who can’t love Laminex, simple pasta and plonk in tumblers?
The Lebanese restaurant has plenty of vegan and seating options (we really like the courtyard), and it’s BYO.
It’s our favourite dumpling house in town. Quick, low-key and delicious.
It’s a premium experience with interesting wines that still won’t tie you down. Get one duck waffle or commit to a 800g steak. We like watching what's going on behind the pass.
Pietro Barbagallo’s pizze is phenomenal, and, if it’s sunny, you can get it to go and eat it in the park across the road.
If you like cocktails, whisky, blues, good service and eating Reuben sandwiches at 2am, Beneath Driver Lane is your basement of dreams. If your date doesn't like those things, maybe reconsider why you're on a second date? Booths are in intimate nooks, and the music is never deafening.
If you both know your wine, the list is unbeatable and the space, filled with Gerald Diffey’s carefully curated assortment of tat is perfect.
This place has great cocktails, wines and beers and excellent lamb ribs, pickles and salumi that you can build into a meal. Plus there are street seats.